M1. It’s a small step from fun to happiness. That’s why, every morning, I ask myself,
“What can I include in my day to have some fun?”
I have found that most people never set for themselves even the simplest goals each day. Instead, what they do is to worry about all the things they have to do for other people.
For example, they have to get up, get ready, go to work, do what the boss tells them to do all day, come home, do all the other things they have to do, then try to cope with all the stresses built up during the day by having a few beers and numbing themselves enough to fall into the oblivion of a disturbed sleep.
Then they repeat the procedure the next day and produce a similar result… which leads them down the path to depression rather than happiness.
Is Fun Really OK?
For many people, fun is simply enjoyment, amusement or light-hearted pleasure, whereas getting through each day is a serious business as described above, and they think it’s frivolous and not OK for them to have fun.
But in a stressful day, everyone needs some time out without being hounded by emails, text messages and all the other “should’s” of life.
That’s why dreaming is so important. It may be day-dreaming, focused visualizations, meditations, power-napping, quality time with someone they care about, etc. These are all derivatives of dreaming.
And having some fun is something prescribed for people suffering from depression. It’s really OK. It’s re-charging the battery. It’s distraction. It’s time-out. It’s acceptance of the way things are. It’s doing something else.
To give yourself time for some fun is to give yourself permission to focus on the more positive parts of your life.
Appreciation is about taking a moment of pleasure in whatever things you have achieved in life, even if they are only small things. For if you do, those small things themselves will appreciate and grow for themselves.
Studies by Irvin Yalom have shown that people with terminal illnesses often feel more alive than they ever have done before in their lives, because they finally appreciate some of the things they have achieved or have done.
Dream, Fun and Happiness
“Vision without action is merely a dream. Action without vision just passes the time. Vision with action can change the world”, so said Joel Barker
This quote is something worth considering and in the context of this blog, it relates firstly to dream and then from fun to happiness, as follows:
- Dreaming, whether asleep or awake, is to have a heartfelt vision of something in your thoughts.
- Fun is the de-stressor and motivator needed to take action
- Happiness is the result of engaging in these processes where changing the world becomes an option
So enlist your dreams, have some fun with them, and set off along the path of happiness by adopting the attitude of gratitude for who you have become already. As Jon Bon Jovi sang,
“Welcome to wherever you are
This is your life, you made it this far
Welcome, you gotta believe
That right here right now, you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be”